What is Love: Storge
My name is Mozi, a Chinese philosopher and inventor. My school of Mohism was the major rival to Confucianism.
Despite the state of war that embroiled the Chinese states during those times, I believed in the principles of pacifism and equality.
The central concept of my philosophy is called jiān ài, ‘universal’ or ‘all-consuming love,’ which corresponds with the original meaning of Storge.
Storge is all-consuming because everyone can be loved in terms of it.
It ignores the barriers and prejudices, giving care and support to those who need it.
This form of love is mainly understood as a connection within a family.
Yet it is a way broader, including what an owner feels to the pet, a mother feels to her child, offsprings to parents, and community members to each other.
Storge is not even something we may call ‘love,’ because usually, we do not choose our family or parents.
Even with the person of your choice, you can’t pick just the qualities you want but accept all the strengths and weaknesses.
We can describe Storge as affection-obligation. It is natural and completely unforced.
It is mainly about actions, not words: warm blanket, tight hugs, financial support, or cozy talks in the kitchen.
Try to identify your Storge based on these characteristics.
Who gives you the feeling of quiet and abiding care? Staying close to whom makes you rest and feel good?
My concept of all-consuming love means a concern for all.
I believe that being kind and empathic to everyone may stop such horrible things as wars, poverty, and violence.
I believe that the whole world is somehow connected, and its creatures relate to each other.
“If people were to regard the houses of others as they regard their own house, who would still stir their own house to bring disorder to the houses of others?”
Exclusive interest is good for what you may call ‘mine’ (yourself or the close ones) but may be destructive for others.
Like a family that embraces its members unconditionally, I taught to accept everyone with loyalty.
All-consuming love ranges from strong affection to detached concern for common well-being.
What do you feel about people and the world in default?
Does it worth your concern to care about those who don’t straightly relate to you? What can you do for them?
I know it could be complicated to come this far, but you did it!
Since every rung brings you closer to the highest form of love, the tougher is the path but more precious is the lesson.
Reward yourself on the next step — Philautia.